Aleen Bailey- Life After Track & Field - THEBEYONDWOMAN Magazine

Growing up in the small community of Baccaswood, nestled in Islington, St. Mary, left an indelible impact on my life. Our humble village thrived on the foundations of a close-knit farming community, where a barter system reigned supreme and the spirit of communal sharing prevailed. It was an environment where everyone was interconnected, and the bonds of camaraderie ran deep. Within the confines of this nurturing community, I experienced a sense of safety and security that is rare in today’s fast-paced world. Countless watchful eyes kept a protective gaze on us throughout the day, ensuring our well-being and fostering a genuine sense of belonging. It was a place where neighbors became extended family, and we could rely on one another without hesitation.

In the absence of my parents, who toiled hard to provide for our family, the responsibility of caring for the children fell upon the elderly members of our community. Grandparents and godparents played pivotal roles in shaping our upbringing, offering guidance, love, and wisdom that only years of experience can bring. I am forever grateful for their presence in my life, as they nurtured me with kindness and taught me valuable life lessons. As the only girl among my siblings, who were all older and preoccupied with their newfound interests, I carved my path as a spirited tomboy. Life was an adventure, and our backyard, adorned with abundant fruit trees, served as a playground of delights. From mangoes to oranges, I never knew the pangs of hunger, relishing in the sweetness of nature’s bounty.

Childhood in Baccaswood was an embodiment of joy and vitality. Playtime meant spirited cricket and football matches on the streets, where laughter reverberated and friendships flourished. These carefree moments fostered resilience, teamwork, and a love for physical activity, shaping the person I would become. While my father traversed the globe as a farm laborer, seeking better opportunities for our family, and my mother dedicated her days to domestic work, I found solace in accompanying her. It was during those times that I witnessed the strength and determination of a working mother, and it fueled my aspirations to chart my own path in the world.

Faith held a significant place in our lives, as our family had deep-rooted ties to the church. I eagerly participated in various church activities, attending choir rehearsals and immersing myself in Sunday services. My mother’s role as an evangelist instilled in me the importance of spirituality, compassion, and service to others. My father’s intermittent presence due to his travels often made his disciplinary actions all the more impactful. Whenever reports of our misbehavior reached his ears, his stern approach and the snap of his belt served as a reminder of the values he wished to instill within us. Meanwhile, my mother employed a gentler approach, engaging us in heartfelt conversations that nurtured our understanding of our actions and their consequences.

Reflecting upon my upbringing in Baca, I realize how the simplicity and interconnectedness of a small community can leave an everlasting impression. It was a place where nature’s gifts sustained us, where play nurtured our spirits, and where the guidance of elders and the foundation of faith shaped our character. Those formative years continue to influence the person I am today, instilling within me a sense of gratitude, resilience, and the importance of community bonds.

Aleen’s interest in running

When I was in primary school, my mom would often leave us with a neighbor while she went to work. During that time, I encountered a grown man who attempted to sexually assault me. Fortunately, I fought back with all my strength, and the assault did not happen. I didn’t share this traumatic incident with anyone because I was afraid of getting into trouble. Instead, I redirected my anger toward boys at school, and as a result, I became an angry child. My teacher noticed my anger issues and would frequently send me outside to walk it off. Eventually, walking became monotonous, so I started jogging.

One day, my teacher saw me jogging and thought I had the potential to participate in cross-country running. That’s how my running journey began. It wasn’t long after that I discovered that I had asthma when I had difficulty breathing during one of my runs. Consequently, my running distance was reduced from 1500 to 800 meters. My school coach then started entering me in shorter distances like the 200 and 100 meters. As it turned out, I performed exceptionally well in these regular sports events, which led to my participation in the parish championship.

Running became a therapeutic outlet for me, providing relief from the pent-up emotions I carried due to the almost-violent incident I experienced. The success I achieved in running also caught the attention of high schools, which began considering me as a potential athlete.

Aleen’s community

Joseph Holden, the CEO of a clothing store, along with his assistant Timothy Spencer, began sponsoring and mentoring children in whom they saw potential. They provided financial support to help these young athletes. Timothy, who had been a track runner in high school, wanted to give back to children in need. Alongside Dwight, Timothy’s assistant, they saw my performance at a championship and recognized my potential. They decided to sponsor me, despite my initial attitude and doubts about my commitment.

I was fortunate to have a best friend, Soyini Thompson, who transferred to my high school, Vere Technical. She had a profound impact on me. She didn’t allow me to stay in my anger or delinquency. One day, while jumping on her bed, she told me to stop, and when I didn’t listen, she ran up and smacked me. In that moment I fell in love with her because she was the only person who didn’t let me wallow in negative behavior. Sueney took charge and made sure I studied, arrived on time, and stayed out of trouble. She had an agreement with the principal, allowing me to take breaks and cool down whenever I had an anger outburst, sometimes, I would end up in the principal’s office, where they had a nice setup for me with a table and chair. Sueney seemed older and wiser than her years, as she saw beyond my troubled behavior.

Even to this day, I’m still a little afraid of her, despite being an adult. She was born on August 24, 1980, and I was born on November 25, 1980, so she’s just a few months older than I am. Despite the small age difference, she possessed a sternness and everything needed to whip me into shape. It was because of her that my grades improved. She once mentioned that if she had arrived a year earlier, I could have gone straight to a university. However, due to her late arrival, I had to take fewer CXC exams to attend a junior college. I spent two years at Barton County Junior College in Kansas, which was located in the middle of nowhere. All I could see around were buffalo, and I quickly learned how to distinguish a buffalo from a cow.

Even while I was in junior college, she stayed in touch to ensure my grades were good. If I did anything bad, she would give me a stern talking. It was amazing how she, being a few months older than I, took me under her wing and guided me. Apart from the people who sponsored me, she played a major role in my success. She, Timothy Spencer, and others invested their time and energy in me. There was also Miss Daly, who worked for Joseph Holden’s and provided a place for me to stay during my travels. She is still in my life, along with Mr. Timothy Spencer, who ensured I had everything I needed for school and helps me with budgeting.

Additionally, Carmen Clark joined the group when I started making junior teams. She taught us how to sit properly, use a knife and fork correctly, and prepared us for interviews. Interestingly, she was the one who got me a therapist—well-known and leading Caribbean psychiatrist Dr. Aggrey Irons.

I had a collective group of individuals who supported and shaped me. It was as if my path was set long before I even knew it, and that’s what God does for all of us. I can’t forget to mention my mother, who stuck by me and is a strong believer in prayer. She often reminds me that God blesses her through me and my accomplishments.

Aleen’s Track and Field Career

I would say the most significant and memorable experience was the 2004 Olympics. It was the year we won Gold in the women’s 4x100m relay for Jamaica, marking the first time in history. The women on the team were incredibly talented and it was a dream come true for me even though my idol Merlene Joyce Ottey and Jamaican by birth was running for a different country Of note I was officially introduced to Merlene Ottey at the 1997 World Championships and spent time with her. It was a big deal for me. During that time, she gave me some words of encouragement, advising me to stay focused, keep positive influences around me, and always try my best. It was a special experience for me, and I was just 15 years old at the time.

As a track star, there are unique challenges that we face. One major challenge is the financial aspect. If you have a bad year or your performance declines, sponsors may cut your scholarship or sponsorship, affecting your income. Another challenge specifically faced by female athletes is the scrutiny of our bodies. Throughout the year, our bodies go through changes, and negative comments about our appearance can be hurtful. People may make comments about our muscular physique or make sexual remarks based on our looks. It’s also disheartening to receive negative comments from employers or companies we work with, which can impact our mental well-being. I’ve personally experienced a situation where a picture of my butt was circulating on the internet without my knowledge. It was a picture taken as I was going into my starting position, and my shorts rode up a bit. People were passing around the picture and making inappropriate comments. It was only when my male friends showed me the picture that I realized it was me. Dealing with such incidents and hurtful comments can be challenging, especially when they come from people within your own country.

Over the years, I’ve had to believe in my worthiness, acknowledge that I am good enough, and refuse to let negativity overpower me. In times of darkness, my intuitive best friend reaches out, and we go for walks or have meaningful conversations to reset my thoughts. We often involve another friend for support through three-way calls. Additionally, I reach out to my mom, bonus mom, and other close individuals in my community who are always there for me. Having this invaluable support network means that whenever I feel down or overwhelmed, someone is available to lend an ear, even if it takes contacting multiple people.

The Demands of a track life and the discipline it demands

Life as a track athlete in college was incredibly grueling, the training regimen was strict and nutrition played a crucial role in our routine, with a nutritionist guiding our dietary choices. We had specific meals to consume before workouts and protein shakes afterward to aid in muscle recovery. Portion control was also emphasized. Additionally, incorporating fruits and vegetables was vital for their nutritional benefits. Sufficient sleep was a priority as it allowed for proper physical and mental recovery. While occasional celebrations occurred during one-week breaks, I made sure not to overindulge in alcohol. Clean eating, focus, ample rest, and adherence to training schedules were essential aspects of our routine.

It is unwavering discipline and sacrifice. Following a strict diet, prioritizing rest, and enduring rigorous training that was integral to my success. Though challenging, these experiences taught me valuable lessons in perseverance, dedication, and self-care, which I can apply to various aspects of my life beyond track and field.

The benefits remain beyond Track Life

In my current job, I maintain a structured routine, waking up at specific times, preparing myself for the day ahead, and staying focused on tasks. The training load I experienced as an athlete is akin to the workload I now face. My track and field skills have proven valuable as I am able to effectively work with others and adapt to different personalities and approaches. I currently coach track and field at the high school level. My primary job, however, is in home healthcare, where I provide care for an older lady with dementia. It is a rewarding experience as there are moments when she smiles or recalls something amusing, and we even go outside together. Track and field taught me the virtue of patience, as progress is not always immediate in the sport. It also taught me how to appreciate and value each individual for who they are.

My work ethic, honed through my dedication to track, extends to all aspects of my life. I pay meticulous attention to details, whether it’s in my nutrition choices or other areas. I make a conscious effort to read labels, ensuring I avoid certain ingredients or excessive sugar content. This disciplined approach, born out of my experiences as a hard worker in track and field, has shaped my work ethic today. I approach every task with utmost seriousness and commitment. My track students can testify to the discipline I demand of them even though I may have a softer and more nurturing side.

Advice to young girls interested in pursuing track and field

Find the right coach: Look for a coach who not only helps you improve your training but also nurtures and encourages you. Your coach should genuinely care about your well-being and want what’s best for you.

Believe in yourself: Have faith in your abilities and believe that you can achieve great things. Put in the extra effort and go the extra mile. If your coach suggests working on certain techniques or aspects of your performance, dedicate yourself to practicing and improving in those areas.

Surround yourself with supportive people: Choose friends and teammates who motivate and inspire you. Surrounding yourself with positive influences and individuals who share your commitment to training and reaching goals can make a significant difference in your success.

Trust and believe in yourself: Trust your instincts and have confidence in your capabilities. Don’t let anyone undermine your self-perception or make you feel inferior. Whether you aspire to be an Olympian, a lawyer, or even the future president of your country, maintain a strong belief in yourself and work diligently towards your dreams.

Embrace positivity: Fill your mind with positive thoughts and affirmations. Pour positivity into yourself and cultivate a mindset of growth and success. Consider revisiting practices and strategies that have worked for you in the past, such as writing down your goals and reading them daily. Your subconscious mind will absorb these aspirations, bringing them to the forefront of your thoughts when you least expect it.

Have meetings with yourself: Schedule regular meetings with yourself to reflect on your progress and set new goals. Take time to evaluate which goals you have accomplished and identify areas where you may need improvement. Don’t be discouraged if you haven’t achieved everything on your list. Simply carry unfinished goals over to the next week and keep working towards them. Remember, success may not happen overnight, but persistence and dedication will eventually lead to positive outcomes.

TBWM: I love the idea of “having a meeting with yourself.” Let us shift our focus to women. I’d like to hear your perspective on whether a woman can truly have it all.

Yes, I believe women can have it all. It’s similar to how track and field operates. Everything is scheduled, so you have to schedule things in your life. You can be a mother, a wife, and even the owner of a corporation. It’s all about finding that balance. Sometimes, people underestimate the power of women when we set our minds to something and when we have the support of those around us. We won’t allow ourselves or others to give up or quit. If we can constantly instill in our children, spouses, and friends the belief in their dreams and aspirations, then we are capable of doing the same for ourselves. The key is to make time for ourselves and the things we want to pursue. It’s important to have partners and friends who support our vision and not dismiss it. Instead of saying, “You can’t do all of that,” they should ask, “What can I do to help you run your business, get the kids ready for school, and still have time for us?” It all comes down to scheduling and finding our own balance. Yes, we can have it all, despite the narratives that made us feel otherwise. We definitely can.

TBWM: How can women become the best versions of themselves? We know that society, culture, and gender roles often impose limitations on us. What are your thoughts on how women can overcome these barriers and truly become the best they can be?

To become the best version of ourselves, we must simply take it. We must demand the respect we deserve and show others that we are capable. We mustn’t allow anyone to confine us to a certain classification or role based on gender. It’s important to recognize that women have played a vital role in the success of many businesses, even if they are often overshadowed by their male counterparts. There is often a woman in the background, whether it’s a mother or another influential figure, instilling greatness in others. So, it’s about demanding respect, displaying our capabilities, and going for what we want without allowing anyone to hold us back.

TBWM: If you could re-live your life, is there anything you would change?

If I could relive my life, there is one thing I would change, and it’s related to my track career. I would have chosen a different coach and agent after graduating from college. I won’t mention any names because that’s not necessary. When you’re young and inexperienced, even the people around you may not always guide you in the best direction. It’s understandable, and I’ve seen other athletes in track change coaches as well. Trusting your instincts and listening to your intuition as a woman is important, and I should have done that. There were signs pointing me in a different direction, but I ignored them. Love played a role too because I believed the people who loved me wouldn’t put me in an uncomfortable or unfit situation. However, I realized that they were seeing one version of things while I experienced a different version. Initially, it seemed good, but even if something seems good for a short time, we eventually get redirected to where we truly belong.

TBWM: What quote or Bible verse brings calm and balance to your life?

There are two things that come to mind. Firstly, my mentor, Timothy Spencer, gave me an award with the quote, “Be humble in victory and gracious in defeat.” This quote has stayed with me throughout the years. It reminds me that when I win, someone else may be experiencing loss, so it’s important to remain humble and extend congratulations to others. That’s why I used to give hugs to everyone after my races, congratulating them on their performance. When I lose and feel angry or upset, I still maintain my composure and congratulate my competitors. However, when I return home, I may shed tears and express my disappointment.

The second quote that holds significance for me is Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” I recognize that without Christ, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Life itself wouldn’t be the way it is. This verse reminds me that while I may have one path in mind for myself, God may have a different plan, and I trust in His guidance.

Aleen’s encouragement for women?

I want to encourage all women to trust that little voice in their heads because it never lies. Trust your instincts and be true to yourself. Don’t try to be the version of yourself that others want you to be, as that will only cause you stress. It’s impossible to please everyone, so it’s okay to be selfish sometimes and prioritize your own well-being. Learn to say no and take care of yourself. Take time for yourself, even if it’s just going outside for 20 minutes to soak in the sun or taking a walk. You only have one you, so please take care of yourself.

Listen to your body because it will tell you when something is wrong or when you need a break. It’s important to pay attention and give yourself the rest you need. Even if you’re a busy mom or have other responsibilities, it’s crucial to communicate your needs and take time for yourself. After 40, many things change, and you realize that you don’t have to tolerate the things you used to. It’s your time now to prioritize your happiness and well-being.

TBWM: What’s next for Aleen?

As for what’s next for me, it’s an unexpected but wonderful journey. I have someone in my life now, and he will be in my space 24/7. It’s exciting and crazy, but I truly love him. It’s a beautiful thing. Last year, I decided to join my mom in her fasting and prayer routine. I prayed for a spouse who would love me the way Timothy Spencer, my mentor, loves his wife. Then, in September, while I was working at a hotel, this guy caught my attention. He kept walking by, smiling, and waving at me. Eventually, he got the courage to ask me to borrow a tweezer, and we started talking. He saw something in me that matched his vision, and after dating for a few months, he proposed to me on January 6th.

So, that’s what’s next for me—a new chapter in my life filled with love and happiness.

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